Are you shrinking to make others comfortable? In this episode of Leilaniâs Couch, Leilani calls out the habit of hiding behind âhumble energyâ and challenges you to stop playing small. Itâs time to own your wins, your story, and your spaceâwithout guilt. Learn the difference between humility and hiding, and how to walk into rooms with boldness, alignment, and full presence. Because sometimes, all you need is ten minutes⊠to stop dimming and start dominating.
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Leilani Anderson-Monroe
So, let me ask you something. When was the last time you walked into a room and actually owned it? I mean, no second-guessing, no shrinking back, just full-blown confidence. Think about it. You see, way too often, we play small, we dim our lights, and for what? To make everyone else comfortable? Nah, that ends today because this episode is all about power. Your power. Owning it, claiming it, and letting it radiate so bright that there's no ignoring you.
Leilani Anderson-Monroe
This is "Ten Minutes of Motivation," and Iâm Laylonnie, your cheerleaderâheck, your accountability partner for the next... 600 seconds or so. Today, weâre diving deep into what it really means to stop playing humble and start stepping into rooms with the kind of energy that makes people pay attention. No apologies, no half-measures, just your full, unapologetic self showing up. Sound good? Well, let's go there.
Leilani Anderson-Monroe
Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught that shrinking ourselves made us more likable. That minimizing our wins, softening our presence, and keeping quiet was a form of grace. But Iâm here to tell you: thatâs not humility, thatâs hiding. And thereâs a big difference. Humility is knowing your power and not needing to announce it constantly. Hiding is knowing your power and being too afraid to use it.
Leilani Anderson-Monroe
This used to be meânot long ago. I would walk into rooms and instantly downplay what Iâd built. Iâd hesitate to speak up, hesitate to lead, and hesitate to own my greatness because I didnât want to seem like I was âdoing too much.â I told myself I was being modest, but deep down I was moving from fear, not alignment. So I went on a journey to change that. I stopped apologizing for who I was, and I started walking with the mindset that my purpose was too big to keep pretending I didnât carry something powerful.
Leilani Anderson-Monroe
So letâs break down some truth. Firstâyou're not too much. If your confidence makes others uncomfortable, thatâs not your problem. You're just in the wrong room. Secondâyour voice, your story, and your vision matter. The moment you stop waiting for permission, you unlock power. And thirdâyou owe it to your future to show up fully. Half-stepping only leads to half-blessings. You were not called to play smallâyou were called to shake atmospheres.
Leilani Anderson-Monroe
This week, I want you to do something powerful. Write down three things you normally downplay about yourselfâyour gifts, your success, your calling. Then say them out loud. Say them like youâre introducing yourself to your next level. And while youâre doing that, ask yourself: Where have I been shrinking? Who am I afraid of outshining? What version of me have I been hiding to keep other people comfortable?
Leilani Anderson-Monroe
Because hereâs the real reminder: You donât have to prove your worth. You just have to stop hiding it. Your next level is not waiting on perfectionâitâs waiting on your presence. So stop playing humble, and start walking boldly. Sometimes, all you need is ten minutes⊠to stop dimming and start dominating.
Leilani Anderson-Monroe
That's it for today! Until Next time! Stay Empowered!
About the podcast
"Leilaniâs Couch: Ten Minutes of Motivation" was born from Leilaniâs lifestyle shiftâto stop shrinking, start healing, and pour into herself while inspiring others. As a mom, real estate broker, producer, founder of Boss Women Network, and MBA holder, she brings quick, powerful episodes that realign and refuel. This isnât therapyâitâs real talk from a woman whoâs walked through fire and came out focused. Sometimes, all you need is ten minutes on the couch.